Saying NO

Butterflies Alive!  Ginter Botanical Gardens.  Copyright 2012: singeronthesand

Like a gold ring on a pig's snout

is a beautiful face on an empty head.

Proverbs 11:22

Reality shows are not really my cup of tea.  I like mysteries and cop-style shows - my favorite being NCIS.  I also love foreign cop shows - like Beck (Swedish), and Inspector Montalbano (Italian).  So it is really unusual for me to be lounging on my couch watching a show such as The Bachelorette, but that is exactly where I was tonight.  This week is "sex week in Curacao..." as the Wall Street Journal called it.  The bachelorette is given invitation cards, one for each guy, to spend the night with her "as a couple" in a "fantasy suite."  Sort of like trying out the product before you purchase.

The Bachelorette, Emily, has narrowed the male playing field to three guys:  Jef, Arie, and Sean.  She has one of those little "let's have sex" cards in her pocket for each of those guys.  Will she or won't she use them?  Kind of tacky, right?  Especially in front of millions of TV viewer, who tune in just for this type of titillation.  I didn't have long to wait to get my answer:  With Sean?  No.  She pulled out the card to show him, then stated that as a mother of a young girl, she did not want to set that kind of example.  With Jef?  No. She again pulled out the card, but bid Jef "goodnight," stating that she didn't feel that a few extra hours would make that much of a difference in her decision process.  With Arie?  She is so physically attracted to Arie that she did not trust herself to hold strong, so she never brought the Fantasy Suite invitation out of her pocket.

The Bachelorette (and its companion show, The Bachelor) are somewhat silly shows involving a lot of drinking and even more making out.  It is the last place in the world that one would expect to find their life's companion.  However, on this one show on this one night, a very pretty young lady refused to go along with the trashier side of the show's format because she did not want to disrespect herself or her young daughter.  Kudos to you, Emily.  I certainly hope that someday you find a man worthy enough to be a father to your little girl.